Common Wedding Regrets – What Couples Wish They’d Done Differently
Regrets that couples commonly have after their wedding day – Advice from a Hampshire Wedding Photographer
When you spend months or even years planning your wedding, it’s completely normal to look back afterwards and think, “I wish we’d done that differently.” Over the years as a Hampshire wedding photographer, I’ve heard so many stories from couples sharing their common wedding regrets, and most of them are easily avoidable with a little bit of planning and perspective.
So, if you’re in the middle of planning your big day, here are the most common wedding regrets I hear time and time again, and a few gentle tips to help make sure you don’t have any of your own.
1. Not hiring a professional photographer or videographer
This one is top of the list for a reason. Your photos and film are what you’ll look back on forever, and so many couples regret cutting costs here. A professional photographer knows how to capture genuine emotion, natural moments, and beautiful lighting even when the weather or timeline doesn’t go to plan. I’ve had countless couples tell me they wish they’d invested more in this part of their day. You can see examples of full wedding galleries on my Real Weddings page.
2. Letting stress take over
From the seating plan to the playlist, it’s easy to get swept up in the details. But when the day comes, no one will notice if the napkins don’t match your bridesmaids’ dresses. Try to let go of the little things so you can actually enjoy your wedding. The most common wedding regret of all is spending too much time worrying and not enough time being present.
3. Not eating or drinking enough
It sounds simple, but between mingling, photos, and excitement, many couples forget to actually sit down and eat. Make sure someone — a bridesmaid, your planner, or even your caterer — keeps an eye out for you and brings food and water your way. You’ll feel better, look fresher, and have more energy for dancing later.
4. Forgetting to take a moment together
Your wedding day will fly by faster than you can imagine. Some couples tell me they barely saw each other between getting ready, greeting guests, and chatting all evening. Try to plan a few quiet minutes just for the two of you — whether it’s a walk after your ceremony or sneaking out for sunset photos — it’s often the most special memory of the whole day.
5. Not having a proper backup plan
As a Hampshire wedding photographer, I’ve seen my fair share of unpredictable British weather. One of the most common wedding regrets is not having a solid Plan B for outdoor ceremonies or receptions. Check with your venue about covered options, invest in a few clear umbrellas, and embrace it if it rains. Some of the most romantic photos happen in the drizzle.
6. Following trends instead of your heart
Pinterest and TikTok are wonderful for inspiration, but they can also make you feel like you should have things that don’t feel true to you. Whether it’s a doughnut wall or a sparkler exit, only include the ideas that actually make you happy. Your guests will remember the atmosphere, the love, and the laughter — not whether your napkins were the colour of the year.
(If you love wedding planning inspo but want to stay grounded, check out Rock My Wedding for beautiful, realistic ideas and advice.)
7. Not spending enough time with guests
Many couples regret not getting around to everyone, especially if you have a large guest list. A good way to fix this is by greeting guests during the drinks reception or visiting tables between courses. Those little chats mean so much to friends and family who’ve travelled to celebrate with you.
8. Skipping the video
I’ve heard this so many times — couples who chose not to have a videographer often regret it later. While photos capture the look of your day, video captures the sound, the movement, and the emotion. Even if you just book a short highlight film or have someone record the speeches, it’s worth it.
9. Ignoring the timeline
A wedding day runs so much smoother when there’s a clear timeline. Without one, things can feel rushed, and you might end up missing out on the moments you were most excited for. Your photographer or coordinator can help plan timings that keep things relaxed and natural.
10. Not printing or backing up photos
After the excitement settles, don’t forget to print your wedding photos or create an album. So many couples regret not doing this sooner. Digital files are great, but there’s something truly special about holding your memories in your hands and seeing them on your wall every day.
11. Overspending on unnecessary extras
It’s easy to get caught up in the “we need it all” mindset, but some couples later regret splurging on things that didn’t actually add value to their day. Whether it’s too many décor items, elaborate favours, or an extra dessert table that went untouched; focus your budget on what matters most to you.
12. Not trying on shoes or the dress properly
You’ll be on your feet all day, so make sure your shoes are comfortable and broken in. Likewise, practise sitting, walking, and even hugging in your wedding dress before the big day — it might sound funny, but it makes a difference!
13. Forgetting to capture candid moments
Some couples focus so much on formal group shots that they miss the joy of the natural moments. Laughter during speeches, hugs with grandparents, kids dancing — those are often the images you’ll treasure most.
14. Not having an emergency kit
A mini kit with plasters, safety pins, tissues, and painkillers can save the day. You’ll thank yourself later when someone’s zip breaks or your heel starts to rub.
Final Thoughts
Every couple has their own story, and no wedding is ever perfect, but knowing the most common wedding regrets can help you plan with confidence and focus on what really matters. If you take anything from this list, let it be this — the best wedding days are the ones that feel true to you.
So laugh, dance, and soak it all in, because those are the moments you’ll treasure forever.
If you’d like to see more real wedding stories and inspiration, visit my Real Weddings gallery.
Or if you’re ready to chat about your plans and check availability, you can get in touch here.
